So I spent Saturday night and Sunday over at Jim and Beckys in E-City and had a blast with Trudy and Bri. It wasn't planned but in the shape that Becky was in, Vicky, Amanda, and I all agreed that I should spend the night to keep an eye out on Becky and her meds. I even hid the box with her drugs in the hallway closet, and she didn't even notice until the morning. Jim, Bobby, and the family really need to monitor her dosages.
Trudy sees it and it really upsets her and I'm concerned about that because no 13year old should see her own mom walking down the hallway in a semi-comatose state. I saw it in Trudy's eyes when she asked if we could take her and Bri back to Hampton. It was a sad moment....Ohh man... I feel for those kids.
I met Julia, one of Trudys friends. She's got what I call "kind eyes". They've have a kind of sorrowful look to them. I realize all these kids today have some sort of family problems and that really tugs my heart. One of Trudys friends parents are divorced, lives with her Mom and lets he daughter hang out till 10 at night (at 11 years old!). Another friends Mom has mental issues and has had to go thru psyc treatment when she through a large book at her own daughter. (I'm assuming it hit her to cause her to go to the hospital - otherwise it likely wouldn't have been reported) Yet another kid saw her own mother get killed by her father when she was 7. (this was verified by Jim) Anyways, I guess thats why I get so concerned about kids who aren't even my own. They're still young, and they've already gone thru soo much. I guess thats why I just wanna wrap my arms around them.
You know there's one thing I like that I see in these kids that I never saw when I was there age. They all seem to have a real strong bond of friendship. Especially with the girls and Trudys friends. They're never afraid to show that they care for each other. They need that love, and I guess the easiest way to get it is from friends who can relate to. Always saying I love you to each other. I think thats wonderful :-)..... we need the adults to show more compassion like that!!
Tuesday, November 30, 2010
Tuesday, November 23, 2010
I can't sleep
So it's 1:00am. Amanda is sleeping soundly in bed with Conner next to her humming in his sleep. It's really cute. So why am I still awake?... I guess it's too much on my mind. Vicky and Kevin's financial situation, neither of them deciding to quit smoking, them wanting to move, me looking for a job, and to top it off... just a few kids who I worry and care for who aren't even mine.
Kids today don't get the attention they need ... and they're screaming out loud that they need it.. and nobody is listening. It often seems us parents are too busy making ends meet, paying the bills by working two jobs. How may times do parents actually sit down with their kids and help them with homework? How often do we sit down on the couch and really really talk to the?
I mean, for a 11 year old to hang out with 16-18 year olds to get the attention she wants kind of bothers me. She talks more about parties and boys than sleepovers and BFFs. When I'm spend time visiting my niece and my nieces friend wants to know when I'm coming back because she misses my hugs..that really worries me. I think I've seen more "I love you's" typed to best friends, GF's, and BF's, in one week on Facebook, than I've heard in the entire month from my family! Whats wrong with that?
Do we give our kids time to think about the future enough? I remember in high school we had "career day" where career consolers, business representatives, & teachers would go over what types of careers that were available. And we all remember career day in grammar school, when we'd tell the teacher what our dad did for a living. But what happened from 5th grade on? Somewhere along the line we get so caught up with kids with the friends, socializing, who got jumped last week at school, making sure they get their homework done, that we forget to step back and remember that in 4-7 years they'll be out in the real world.
Why do I worry about this?.. because I've already seen it.. I've seen a 15year old teen become pregnant after I warned her she needed to be very careful. . This girl is now 20 and a mom to a 5 year old daughter. I've seen a 17year old get caught up stealing prescription medications from my ex so she could sell them to make money. She's now 21, has moved a while back, cleaned up her act and is getting married next year. I saw a 17year old leave home because of her moms abuse, move into a boyfriends house, at 18 become a stripper, and get hooked on cocaine. Last time i heard she was somewhere in Arizona.
This is why I can't sleep.
Kids today don't get the attention they need ... and they're screaming out loud that they need it.. and nobody is listening. It often seems us parents are too busy making ends meet, paying the bills by working two jobs. How may times do parents actually sit down with their kids and help them with homework? How often do we sit down on the couch and really really talk to the?
I mean, for a 11 year old to hang out with 16-18 year olds to get the attention she wants kind of bothers me. She talks more about parties and boys than sleepovers and BFFs. When I'm spend time visiting my niece and my nieces friend wants to know when I'm coming back because she misses my hugs..that really worries me. I think I've seen more "I love you's" typed to best friends, GF's, and BF's, in one week on Facebook, than I've heard in the entire month from my family! Whats wrong with that?
Do we give our kids time to think about the future enough? I remember in high school we had "career day" where career consolers, business representatives, & teachers would go over what types of careers that were available. And we all remember career day in grammar school, when we'd tell the teacher what our dad did for a living. But what happened from 5th grade on? Somewhere along the line we get so caught up with kids with the friends, socializing, who got jumped last week at school, making sure they get their homework done, that we forget to step back and remember that in 4-7 years they'll be out in the real world.
Why do I worry about this?.. because I've already seen it.. I've seen a 15year old teen become pregnant after I warned her she needed to be very careful. . This girl is now 20 and a mom to a 5 year old daughter. I've seen a 17year old get caught up stealing prescription medications from my ex so she could sell them to make money. She's now 21, has moved a while back, cleaned up her act and is getting married next year. I saw a 17year old leave home because of her moms abuse, move into a boyfriends house, at 18 become a stripper, and get hooked on cocaine. Last time i heard she was somewhere in Arizona.
This is why I can't sleep.
Sunday, November 21, 2010
Wow! I love my niece!
So as I was on Facebook, I saw a comment that Trudy made that had 122 replies! So of course me being nosy... Anyways Trudy made a comment about a teacher or bus driver, "Mrs.Riddick is dumb. gosh i hate her! I want mrs. Shirley back!"
Well, this girl Skylar, told her that it was only her second week, and that she "shouldn't be talking about anybody if I were you" and then had the gall to tell Trudy that she's gonna get jumped!. Whoa!! That opened up a whole can of worms and everyone... everyone came to the defense of Trudy. Trudy kept her composure and answered soo smooth. I LOVE my niece! She's alot more mature than I thought!
Anyways - come to find out, someone had hacked into Skylars FB account, because her mom came in on the convo and vouched for her daughter.
Well, this girl Skylar, told her that it was only her second week, and that she "shouldn't be talking about anybody if I were you" and then had the gall to tell Trudy that she's gonna get jumped!. Whoa!! That opened up a whole can of worms and everyone... everyone came to the defense of Trudy. Trudy kept her composure and answered soo smooth. I LOVE my niece! She's alot more mature than I thought!
Anyways - come to find out, someone had hacked into Skylars FB account, because her mom came in on the convo and vouched for her daughter.
- Carrie Beals and 5 others like this.
Jada London Haha.she mean aint sheFriday at 5:37pm ·
Trudyy Mariie Farrar MHM! She wont even let us talk on the bus! she's a bad word i'm not going to say
Friday at 5:38pm ·
Skylarr Satterfieldd it's your second day, i wouldn't be talkin' bout nobody if i were you.
Friday at 5:39pm ·
Skylarr Satterfieldd Haha , your gonna get jumped next week, and i'ma be WEAKK. !
Friday at 5:41pm ·
Trudyy Mariie Farrar Kaitlyn, meany head(:
Skylar, see that's you. You always say i start crap. it's you. goshh. stop talking to me.
Friday at 5:42pm ·
Skylarr Satterfieldd I mean, I'm just givin' you a heads up.
Because , it's gonna happen.
That's why you should've just stayed at ec.
People in the highschool are talkin' bout you,
& you don't even go there.!
Friday at 5:46pm ·
Trudyy Mariie Farrar Welp, that's there problem , not mine. I'm not going to get jumped. thanks. bye.
Friday at 5:47pm ·
Trudyy Mariie Farrar Ok. by who?
Yeah. you wont tell me. and if i do i have people. and i'm positive Lexii will help.
Friday at 5:49pm ·
Trudyy Mariie Farrar Ha. ok. and well . that's just starting drama. i don't care.
Friday at 5:50pm ·
Daisy Reynolds Radzick Trudy, if u and this girl don't get along and she just torments u then y don't u delete her? I would.
Friday at 5:52pm ·
Trudyy Mariie Farrar Ha. ok . whatever. dang, i don't care. i don't even fight . kay? kay. I actually go to shurch and i don't want to sin anymore then i already have . thanks
Friday at 5:52pm ·
Courtney Mae trudy is not gonna get jumped, everybody loved her a ec. and you are just gonna start crap saying she is gonna get jumped, she is just talking about a stupid bus driver whoopty doo not a big deal (:
i love you tryudy ♥ (:
Friday at 5:52pm · · 1 person
Skylarr Satterfieldd Everybody loved her in EC. Not in PQ. She doesn't fit in.
At all. Like forreaaalll.
Friday at 5:53pm ·
Courtney Mae acually she does, i dont know what your talking about . i hear like GOD things from everybody about her. what do you know,. you jjust started going there .
Friday at 5:54pm · · 1 person
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
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